I am busy reading Mother & Son, The Respect Effect by Emerson Eggerichs – and it is mind-altering-stuff! The book has been lying on my bedside table for some time now. I started reading it when it was initially bought, from the resource centre at church, but never got past the first chapter as life suddenly got crazy busy when I started a new role at work (and needed to focus on work-related reading instead).
I don’t usually wax lyrical about a book, but, now that I have read some more of it I cannot put it down, and thought I would share!
My red-blooded, fiery personality is tested on a daily basis by the fiesty, strong-willed, powerful personality of my son, Ruben. He is so much like me, that we often have a battle of the wills. Don’t get me wrong, I love him with every fibre of my being, but boy, does he challenge me.
This book has already helped me see things differently; who he is as a [man] (the man inside the three year old boy), what he wants/needs from me as his mother, how changing what and how I say things will help him flourish and help me get what I want from him (love, affection, respect, manners, a well adjusted child, and eventually an honorable grown man).
What’s great is that the book explains how to respect your son while confronting his transgressions and then enacting discipline. I have tried this with Ruben, and when I get it right (it’s not easy…), I have a much better outcome than when I deal with him otherwise.
Ps. It’s also helping me see my relationship with Christof, aka The Hubster, in another light. What’s good for the son will be good for the father too. #justsaying
If you have a son, no matter his age, I recommend you get your hands on this book. It’s one of those life-changing books because there’s not much else out there that speaks about this issue, and it’s not a concept easily understood in today’s culture. I cannot wait to see just how much this book will help me be the best mommy I can be for my Rubs.